SUMMARY KEYWORDS

communication, laughter, podcast, parents, share, speak, communicate, foul language, absolutely, life, person, episode, teenager, agree, listening, support, important, comment, dialogue

SPEAKERS

Kathi, Daisy

Daisy 00:02

Bald and Blonde. Welcome to the mindset evolution podcast hear about tips, tricks, skills, tools, inspiration, mental hygiene, know what you want and how to create what you desire to achieve predictable results and create a content life wherever you are until your hosts, Kathi Tait and Daisy Papp.

Kathi 00:26

Hi everybody. This is Kathi Tait, the baldwarrior here talking to you live from Australia on the Bald and Blonde Mindset Evolution podcast. And with me as always is Daisy Papp from Florida Keys. Hi Daisy, how are you?

Daisy 00:43

Hi, I'm extremely well thank you so much for making your time in a timely manner to meet again and to do this because this is so exciting and I love doing it and I'm very busy on the other hand, of course with clients, but I just make it a priority to take that time and set it aside and don't take appointments and don't work late at night, but meet with you to make the world a better place. And this is just lovely. How are you, my dear friend?

Kathi 01:13

Wow, I love that Daisy, because we have done a whole episode around time. And we actually mentioned being on time in our last episode as well, which was on boundaries. 

Kathi 01:25

I am great Daisy. I'm having a very busy and very productive week. So I'm excited to be here also and dedicate this time to our special baby, this podcast where we get to help people out there and today, I've decided we're going to talk about communication. 

Daisy 01:43

Mmh?

Kathi 01:44

Now it is a bit of a lead on from our last episode where we spoke about boundaries. And in that episode, Daisy brought up a really important key point that I think is so important to communication that I think we're going to talk about it again briefly. In case you haven't listened to the last episode, but if you haven't guys, you must go back and do that. So before we get into that, communication to me is a two-way street. I think success in communication relies on one person being able to express themselves and the other person being willing to listen to understand. And if any of those elements aren't quite right, communication can go very wrong very fast. To bring us back to the important key point is Daisy was speaking about the first person singular and what that means within the communication framework. Can we revisit that briefly Daisy to explain what I'm talking about?

Daisy 02:49

Of course, anything. Before I go there to first person singular, let me express my okay because we're communicating right? (Laughter). Healthy communication to me is to understand and be understood without the need to be right. 

Kathi 03:05

Yes. 

Daisy 03:06

So that's a very important essential part, I'd say without the need to be right.

Kathi 03:11

Absolutely. I absolutely agree with that. 

Daisy 03:14

I'm glad you do. (Laughter) So that is one part. Then the next thing is when you say it's a two-way street, it depends on the form of communication, our listeners out there, it's a one way street to them. They are listening to us.

Kathi 03:28

That is true. And of course we address that by putting the ability to give us feedback everywhere. (Laughter)

Daisy 03:37

True, in the group and even on the website, that's brand new, because we have just amazing news, but I let Kathi pop that pop of news. 

Daisy 03:48

We want to define, okay, what is it? Is it a monologue, or is it a dialogue? Mono means okay, it's one. Those who are in the music industry are doing podcasts or recording or listening to music, you usually enjoy stereo, much more than mono. Me personally, I do, I think other music lovers as well. Once it is agreed upon that this is going to be a dialogue, then both parties should be responsible to be open both ways. 

Kathi 04:18

Yes

Daisy 04:19

So when I'm speaking, I'm the one sending a message. You can imagine now, an old fashioned envelope where I'm putting something in there that I want to send to Kathi, and then she's the receiver. Now I can actually look, is it a good time that I'm sending, is she occupied, is she in the mood? That's what I can control kind of thing by my observation. That I sent the message and then now I turn into the receiver, because you become the sender. It's like the two tennis giants, Djokovic and Federer, I know there are others out there too, but I'm still, I like Roger Federer, yes Switzerland and who is number one, these gentlemen, on and off the tennis courts, my personal applause to him. And on the tennis court, what do they do? The ball goes back and forth, so that there must be some flow in the communication. And of course, it is helpful when we speak the same language. 

Kathi 05:17

Very helpful.

Daisy 05:18

Because wenn ich jetzt mit dir auf Deutsch weiterspreche, dann verstehst du mich nicht mehr, pause, because you're trying to find any data that's related to 

Kathi 05:28

not even one word (Laughter)

Daisy 05:32

I just said in German that if I continue speaking German to you, then you would probably not understand one word of it. So I think it is helpful that we speak in a language that we can agree upon, we both understand and enjoy. 

Kathi Tait 05:46

Yes

Daisy 05:47

I can give you an example about that. My son and I, we both speak three languages, the same three languages and we switch back and forth and something and sometimes he says mom, can you say it in German, please? if he's in the mood, or if he's not in the mood to set sail in English, so that's okay. And then we can agree upon. So that's why the part of language can be really important. 

Daisy 06:09

And then the next thing is okay is the other person open to receive, because let's say you're absolutely stressed, you're late, you have two other tests to do and it's almost midnight and you're tired and you have toothache and you have headaches and you need to go use the bathroom. It's probably not an opportune moment to communicate to you about the vacation we want to take in 2025 or the retreats that we're planning on doing in Fiji next year, so it's probably not opportune. So it's my responsibility. 

Daisy 06:36

And then when we communicate, what is it, it's actually it's sharing and caring. So I share with you what's going on in my head, my thoughts. I share with you what's going on in my heart, my feelings, emotions, I share with you, maybe some of my concerns, I share with you some of my experiences and then that is the tennis, is just going back and forth. And we are not like two tennis players on the court. This is not about winning the US Open or the Australian Open, none of that, mmh?

Kathi 07:07

No 

Daisy 07:07

That's what communication is not! But the ball in this metaphor, the back and forth, that is why it's a dialogue. So let's go back to the tennis court, because communication can be healthy and we can discuss something or we can move forward, we can come to a conclusion, to an agreement or we come to laughter together, or we cry together. These are all aspects of communication. 

Kathi 07:32

Yes. 

Daisy 07:33

And the communication is only over when I put down my racket. Game over. Okay, so we discussed that there are these people they repeat themselves over and over again.

Kathi 07:43

(Whispering) I have a couple of family members. (Laughter and indistinct whispering...we agree not....not close family.) I know a couple people like that in my life that do tend to repeat themselves. 

Daisy 08:01

So what do you do then? 

Kathi 08:02

Then there was this one particular person who was just an acquaintance and I genuinely didn't know what to do because she thought she was funny. She would tell these stories and laugh at herself and it was like, she was just entertaining yourself. But she also would repeat things and tell the same stories over and over. 

Daisy 08:22

What did you do? How did you respond? 

Kathi 08:24

 I didn't hang out with her as much.

Daisy 08:26

How sad, I think.

Kathi 08:28

Yeah, because in those days, there's no way I would have confronted somebody with that in fear of hurting their feelings. Which we spoke about last episode.

Daisy 08:40

Yeah. 

Kathi Tait 08:40

Boundaries. 

Daisy 08:40

The boundaries episode

Kathi 08:41

Yeah. 

Daisy 08:41

So okay, but let's go back to communication. 

Kathi 08:44

Yes. 

Daisy 08:45

Because maybe the two of you could have had great communication had you communicated with her, that it's not that entertaining for you when she's repeating the same story over and again, so there was a lack of communication producing some problem. 

Kathi 09:01

Yeah, sure, yeah. 

Daisy 09:02

Now part of communication is also that I share with you, I help you remember that you already told me, so I can do that in a gentle way. I can say, I remember you already told me that. I help you remember what you did or didn't say.

Kathi 09:18

Yeah

Daisy 09:18

That's gentle. And maybe she could have told you some incredible life stories, or maybe laughed together or maybe laughed about her telling the same story again, because the moment when we stop communication, that's quite a statement too, isn't it? 

Kathi 09:32

Yes, it is. 

Daisy 09:33

So you see, there's so many aspects it's exciting. Communication is so important. I love it, by the way, when I see people who communicate through sign language.

Kathi 09:43

Oh, they're amazing, aren't they?

Daisy 09:45

And they can be so expressive, and it is, wow, I wish I understood, mmh?

Kathi 09:51

Yes, for sure.

Daisy 09:52

So you see, communication is very important. Now what I think is very good for all humans, be fair, choose your words wisely and remember foul language is a no go. 

Kathi 10:03

Yeah.

Daisy 10:03

I don't care where anyone acquired their talents of using foul language. It's a no go. Because the moment I add that kind of, to me personally unnecessary, spice into communication, it goes a certain way. Leave it out, try to leave it out. Actually, let me correct that. I do care where you acquired the foul language. Let's address it. Let's heal it and stop doing it because you will feel better about yourself.

Kathi 10:30

That's a great point. Daisy. Absolutely,

Daisy 10:32

Yes, I got a point. Yes. (Laughter)

Kathi 10:37

Let's give our listeners a simple communication exercise they can go home and do with someone in their family.

Daisy 10:45

First person singular. 

Daisy 10:46

Now I go back to your requests next time when you say hey, you're leaving the socks out there again, turn it around, speak what you're observing as if you were a surveillance camera. I see some socks here and I'm not really sure what I should think about that. That's a great skill. By the way, the mother of one of my teachers, she was so elegant because instead of her reacting, she always inserted that little thingy. She asked herself a question. She did this in German language. And she asked as to what should I think about that now? So she gained some time to respond instead of react. So next time you see the laundry still in the hallway, or on the floor, or on the bedroom, or the couch or wherever, just say what you're experiencing and share how it makes you feel. And then add your request what you would like instead. That's clear and then let's see what happens. Give us feedback. 

Daisy 11:38

I love that. I love that, so simple. And how about one that a teenager could do?

Daisy 11:45

A teenager? 

Kathi 11:45

Yes. 

Daisy 11:46

What would be a topic? What's the context?

Kathi 11:48

How about they have got a new boyfriend or girlfriend and the parents trying to ask about it and they don't want to talk about it, but they also don't want to cause conflict with their parent.

Daisy 12:00

Okay, so we're trying to help the parents out there or the teenager, hmm? Two different things. (Laughter)

Kathi 12:09

I don't know, I have a feeling that this will reach into some teenagers' ears, so let's do it from the teenager's point of view.

Daisy 12:16

So let's say that there is a nagging parent, hey, but tell me that so you have a girlfriend finally or you have a boyfriend now or what's going on there, is that the kind...?

Kathi 12:24

Yeah, yeah. And all the stuff that parents do around that can be very frustrating for a teenager when they just want to do their thing. 

Daisy 12:33

Explore. I think for all teenagers out there, when your parents are caring parents, they can still be annoying at times. I'm a mother myself. And so is Kathi.

Kathi 12:42

I am, yes. 

Daisy 12:43

We do really care for what you do at all times, all the time, a lifetime long. So you will not be able to outgrow this. It will not go to disappear. That's it, that's mom.

Kathi 12:56

We can both attest to that, mine's 26, yours is 28, I think?

Daisy 13:01

No sir he's just turned 30 (laughter & indistinct comments)

Kathi 13:08

It doesn't change no matter how old they get.

Daisy 13:11

Imagine that your parents care, they don't ask for nagging. They don't ask because they want to nag you, they ask probably because they're curious. They want to know what's going on in your life and they want to also be sure that you're okay, wherever you are in your life.

Kathi 13:26

Yes, it is often your safety whether it seems reasonable or not, parents worry about their kids.

Daisy 13:32

Yeah. So now as a teenager, what you can do. Let's say your parent asked you once, I would be frank, I'd say, depends if you have a new friend or not. Yes, I'm trying to figure out I really like that one person and I thought it's a wise thing to get to know them better. 

Kathi 13:47

Hey, kids say that to your parents and see if it leaves them speechless. (laughter)

Daisy 13:56

Could be.

Kathi 13:56

I think it might.

Daisy 14:00

 And then here to the parents let's... because I don't want to abandon them in this case scenario.

Kathi 14:04

No, let's help them too.

Daisy 14:05

Parents, yes. Ask them. And if you have the experience that your children are honest, sincere, then believe them. If you have a cheeky sneaky child that has the tendency to bend here a little bit or bend there a little bit, then there's a different problem involved as well, that can be addressed. When it's about, okay, let's build trust here, because you're going to be a grown up shortly and I would like to make sure that you're aware of it, how important it is for me that you're responsible human being that is sincere and can be trusted, because I want to treat you as a young adult. And in order for me to do that, I need to be able to trust you and know that when you say something to me that I can take it to the bank that it's true.

Kathi 14:49

Absolutely. And I think that is an extremely important pillar in any of our relationships, and it's especially apparent when we're talking about teenagers 'cause you go through so much as a teenager and having your parent on your side is going to make your life a lot easier. And I worked hard to build a great relationship with my son when he was a teenager, so he felt safe in coming to me with anything he was struggling with. So, you know, we want to support and encourage that.

Daisy 15:20

I think honesty is very key. That's another part of communication. Unless I'm a stand up comedian and tell you the green, the blue and the yellow from the walls, then that's my job because I'm entertaining you in that setting. But I do believe that honesty is very important, because otherwise, who am I lying to? I'm setting up already lies in the entire setting. 

Kathi 15:40

Absolutely. 

Daisy 15:41

So if I want honesty, then I better be an honest person. 

Kathi 15:44

Absolutely 

Daisy 15:44

Agreed?

Kathi 15:45

Yes, absolutely. Definitely another pillar. 

Daisy 15:48

And I want to say I honestly appreciate our supporters. Thank you so much. Really, that's wonderful. Thank you, what a nice gesture to share with us that you appreciate what you're doing and your comments as well with the support, so that we can keep up with our technical stuff here and the staff.

Kathi 16:04

Yes.

Daisy 16:05

That's wonderful, thanks so much.

Kathi 16:07

We're very thankful for everyone out there who's supported us in all the ways they can. And actually we have a little announcement today we have... 

Daisy 16:16

Bring it on! 

Kathi 16:19

We have just launched our website, the home of the Bald and Blonde podcast and the address is baldandblonde.live. So you can head over there and check out information about Daisy and I and our backgrounds and to get access to all the other things that we do. Plus we have special write-ups on each episode, the ability to listen right there on the website, and so much more. We are going to produce special podcast packs for every episode we do that helps you dive deeper into the topic, into the lessons we discuss and give you some exercises that you can actually do at home. So we're really excited. Every episode that has been published to date has a podcast pack there for you to go and download today. So check it out!

Daisy 17:15

That's wonderful, so much effort in that and I believe this is the future of learning because you can go precisely to topic and you can dive in deeper, you can share, you can learn something, change your own life, create the life you really dream of. That's why it's called Dream Life Creators on Facebook in the group and we share a lot of specials there that are dear to us. And you can get to know us a little bit closer as we are sharing some personal insights and we share some live videos and we say hello to everyone. And if you have a question just come on and ask us because we believe that it's part of communication to ask questions.

Kathi 17:54

Absolutely. And that group is designed to be there to support you guys with what you're going through and help you create change in your life. So we do urge you to come on over and join us and get to know Daisy and I much better as there's a lot of stuff happening in there that you will not see anywhere else. So we're going to wrap it up for our episode on communication there today. And we thank you for your time, your support and please do get in touch with us if there's anything you'd like to say. We love feedback. And don't forget to hit subscribe on your favorite podcast listening platform.

Daisy 18:32

That is wonderful. Exactly and share because we share so much with you. So you're welcome to share with us. Thank you so much for listening and talk to you soon. 

Kathi 18:42

See you next time. 

Daisy 18:43

Bye. 

Daisy 18:44

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SUMMARY KEYWORDS 

dreams, feel, recipe, people, conscience, life, achieve, athlete, song, picture, stick, laughter, important, listen, podcast, listeners, specific, feelings, episode

SPEAKERS

Kathi, Daisy

Daisy 00:02

Bald and Blonde. Welcome to the Mindset Evolution podcast. Hear about tips, tricks, skills, tools, inspiration, mental hygiene, know what you want and how to create what you desire to achieve predictable results and create a content life wherever you are. And here are your hosts, Kathi Tate and Daisy Papp.

Kathi 00:26

And Hello, everybody. Welcome to another episode of Bald and Blonde Mindset Evolution. I'm your host from Australia. Kathi Tait the baldwarrior, and with me, as always, is our host from Florida Keys, Daisy Papp. Hi, Daisy, how are you?

Daisy 00:45

Hi, dear Kathi, thank you so much for again, making time so we can record another episode that we really gift to the world with so much value and especially much love. Thank you so much. I'm doing fine. Today, I'm a little bit tired, I admit openly because I worked very long sessions today and they were not the average sessions. So it was really a little bit challenging, timewise and topic wise. And I'm looking forward to a wonderful weekend, I have to say.

Kathi 01:22

Yes, we all deserve some time off, don't we? And I know that recording this as the favorite part of my week and I know it's one of the favorite parts of yours, too.

Daisy 01:31

Yes, it's wonderful.

Kathi 01:33

We appreciate you bringing your energy and your knowledge to help all of us, Daisy, so much, so thank you.

Daisy 01:42

Oh, thank you. Thank you. And I appreciate this platform and I appreciate our listeners who are open to change their life and to learn, grow and evolve. I appreciate that.

Kathi 01:56

Yes. And it is fantastic to see how our listeners are growing and growing because it means we're having the impact that we've visioned that we can. And that's funnily enough the subject for today, Daisy, today I want to talk about dreams. And not dreams as in sleeping dreams, but dreams is in our visions, and how we can envisage how we really want our life to be instead of getting caught up in where we are and what's going wrong now when what went wrong in the past, I want to help our listeners go, here is how we dream a big dream and then start the process of moving towards making that a reality. And of course, this is what we teach in our Facebook group, Dream Life Creators, Baldwarrior. So if you want a step-by-step map, guys come over to Facebook and join us there.

Daisy 02:54

Dreams. It's a short word with a big meaning. And we all have them. Don't we have them since we were little children? And what happened to most of our dreams? Were we able to achieve them? Were we able to make them a reality? Or did we lose them along the way?

Kathi 03:15

Yes.

Daisy 03:16

And if we lost them, how can we find them again?

Kathi 03:20

Yes.

Daisy 03:21

Or revive them?

Kathi 03:22

Absolutely.

Daisy 03:23

Or how can we adjust parts and pieces of these dreams to make them realistic and achievable? How can we break these dreams down to stepping stones?

Kathi 03:40

Yes, excellent question, excellent questions. (Laughter)

Daisy 03:48

I think dreams are very important in our life. Because they help us to evolve and even though sometimes we may dream big, and others may call us a dreamer, nevertheless, when we stick to our dreams, I have a strong belief that we can be so much more than we limit ourselves to.

Kathi 04:17

Yes, a hundred percent.

Daisy 04:20

I would start okay, so let's have an inventory. What is your dream? Our dear listeners, think about it, what is one of your dreams? And when you think of your dream, while you think of your dream, notice how you're feeling inside. What's the first response, feelings, sensations, thoughts around it. And this is already the breaking point, because when I dream or I have a dream and I think about it, but inside I feel it will never happen, mmh?

Kathi 04:54

Aha

Daisy 04:55

Then we already predestine the dream.

Kathi 05:00

You're killing it before it even has a chance.

Daisy 05:04

And then no wonder it cannot grow?

Kathi 05:07

Yes.

Daisy 05:08

Now the beauty of it is that we were all born with a conscience if we cultivated or not, or to what degree, that's the question of cultural background, traditions, upbringing, and our decisions. But originally, I do believe we all were born with a conscience. Now, if I dream something that would harm someone else, that I truly hope that in most humans, the conscience kicks in and stops us.

Kathi 05:41

Okay, yes.

Daisy 05:42

And when we filter out and can clearly state that this dream is not going to throw anyone else under the bus, but it is bringing something good into this world, that when I will fulfill my dream, it will have an impact on others as well. And now when there is a harmony between the dream itself and the impact it will have, when that is in balance, then it becomes easier to take steps towards fulfilling this dream. Would you agree?

Kathi 06:18

It makes so much sense? Yes, absolutely. And I think what you said about the conscience and dreaming things that are positive and don't harm others is important because some humans can have negative thoughts towards others because they're stuck in their pain.

Daisy 06:39

Mmm

Kathi 06:40

And of course, that's part of what we're trying to help people not do.

Daisy 06:45

Yeah.

Kathi 06:45

So I'm glad that you brought that up. Because it's really important that we dream good things for us, for our families, for the people that we love, and just the community around us, let's not harbor any ill will towards anybody else. Let's dream good dreams.

Daisy 07:04

Yes, because in the meantime, when you dream, these good dreams, the moment you feel good about them, your body is like your compact in that. It shows you, it signals to you, does it feel right or not; has nothing to do with intuition. And when it feels right, then it becomes easier to take the action step by step towards that dream. When you look at an athlete, dreaming of winning that World Championship, I can give you an example.

I worked with an athlete who went to protect his title, world champion title for an event. And he was scared. He had some thoughts that held him back. So even in training, he doubted himself. He thought that no, I'm not going to make it this time, I won't be able. And when we addressed what was holding him back, that is when the page turned within him and he was able to feed that dream. That is when his pictures in his head and the stories he told himself, we have 70,000 plus thoughts a day, then he saw himself standing there receiving the trophy and in his specific sport, where he's a world champion. And he was seeing it and he was envisioning it with the five senses, he heard the cheering and applause and he saw the people standing up and jumping up from their chairs and really just being the best fans that he could wish for. And he started feeling how it feels when he won that. And that mental state of mind supported his dream. So what holds us back from our dreams and what brings us closer to our dreams is exactly the same. It is pictures in our head. And it's the word we repeat in our head. And they either, as you like to say, it either brings you one step closer or one step farther away. So when the same comes to dreams, so to end this story on a good note, the man traveled to Europe and then he flew out there and he fought to protect his world champion title and of course he succeeded.

Daisy 09:32

But what does it require? What are the ingredients? I do believe that once we have a recipe, I like to cook, I know you like to cook as well. And sometimes I like to try something new. Not so often because my taste is quite established in a way that I know what I like and I also know what I don't like, nevertheless, sometimes I like to experiment. And then when I read through the recipe, then I already know if the ingredients, based on the ingredients, once it's ready, if I will like it or not. So it's the choice of recipe. That's the first step. And then once I know the ingredients, and I can read the instructions, step by step, so first you do this, second you chop that third, you throw the onions in the hot oil. And then you do this and that and add the fish, and add the Bailey's or Rosemary or oregano, or even mint leaves. That's the thing I was experimenting with lemon. That was quite nice and refreshing, here in our endless summers in Florida. And then it becomes more clear, once you see the outline of the recipe, with the know-how and how-to, then it becomes replicable. And the same as with achieving our dreams or feeding our dreams and nourishing our dreams so that they can become reality, making our dreams come true.

Kathi 11:06

So let me ask you, Daisy, are we going to give away the recipe for dreaming? (laughter)

Daisy 11:15

That's a good one. I wonder guys, we need to take a break because Kathi and I, we need to make a discussion here as far as not, to what degree are we going to give away the recipe for dreams? I can give away the short version? Because it is my pleasure. And it is my joy to give away in this short format what I can.

Kathi 11:35

Yes.

Daisy 11:36

That suits the length of our program.

Kathi 11:39

Yes, of course and more in-depth learning, that's where we have our tribe and we do that work there so like we said before, come over to our Facebook group.

Daisy 11:48

Yes,

Kathi 11:49

But for our podcast audience whom we love helping and Daisy's always very generous with her knowledge.

Daisy 11:59

Yes, if whoever wants to see their dreams flourishing and becoming more and more real, they also can have a one-on-one session that's possible, too. So the short version is, have a look what you really want. In case you don't know what you want, write a list of what you don't want. Because I know people, I work with them, they tell me repeatedly, I don't want this. I don't want this. I don't want this to happen ever again. I don't want it. And I said so what do you want instead. So that is how we can find out what we do want. Once you know what you do want, then think about it and close your eyes. Not while you're driving or operating machinery, of course, walking or running.

When you're in a safe place when you can take a few moments for yourself undisturbed, preferably. And then close your eyes. And just create that picture of your future self where you already have achieved that dream. And then notice how it feels. And once you know how it feels, you sense it in your body is going to respond with the matching feelings from head to toe. Some people feel heat in the palms. Some others feel a tingling in their nose. Some others feel attention in the cheeks because they start smiling. Others feel an increased heartbeat and their heart starts racing because the excitement kicks in and then others just feel that wonderful warmth or balance inside. So just notice while you're sitting there with your eyes closed, and you see your future self doing exactly what is it that you wish in your dream, look what your future self looks like, look what your future self thinks like, look what your future self behaves like, look at the body posture, look at the speech, at the words at the thinking. So look at it and then notice how it feels within you. And stay with that feeling. And some say when you're able to stay with this feeling for 17 seconds, then you already fueled it up. Now if you are able to do that for 60 seconds, I like 60 seconds personally, and just stick with it and feel it. And then do that every day. Do that every day. Go back, imagine that picture, make it as real as possible. And you can always add something too, because maybe you forgot the sunshine in the picture, or maybe you forgot the music in that picture. Or maybe you forgot that you might want to have a horse and then put the horse in that picture. Or maybe you want a specific car.

Kathi 14:46

Make sure you've got our podcast with you in that picture too guys. (Laughter)

Daisy 14:50

That is almost subliminal suggestion.

Daisy 14:54

But maybe yes, maybe yes. And there are some things you can be very specific with and then it is important to also leave a lot of space to fill in by itself. And I like a phrase that's very powerful, "may it be the best way possible". Because let's face it, nothing's better than the best, would you agree? Therefore, you allow yourself and you allow your subconscious mind to fill in the blank, in even more positive ways you might have access to right here right now, or not. And then do that. Continue doing that when you do that for 30 days, you did a lot. But you need to stick for it for 60 seconds. And if you really want to increase that, the power of that, then do it in the morning, just the moment when you wake up, do not go and rush out to the bathroom because your body can be trained to wait another 60 seconds. Do not look at your phone, check your emails, the news, Twitter, Instagram, find us on Facebook, and so forth. Don't.

Kathi 16:07

Do this first.

Daisy 16:09

And then you prime yourself for the day.

Kathi 16:11

Hot tip, guys. Hot tip.

Daisy 16:13

That's the short version.

Daisy 16:16

And then of course there are enhancers that we use in the one-on-one sessions. Or when we work with a corporation or with a business. And they want to achieve specific goals or teams, especially sports teams. There are great examples. When you have for example, eight rowers, and they need to be quite fast but they also need to be intact.

Kathi 16:42

 Yes. And synchronized.

Daisy 16:45

And when you have eight minds and eight hearts, envisioning at the same time, the achieved goal. I get goosebumps right here right now, because I've seen it and I've done it.

Kathi 16:57

I've actually got them as well, because that's powerful.

Daisy 17:01

And then they go out and get the gold medal. But that's another story. I will write a book one day, I will write a book one day about the athletes I work with and maybe in the meantime, they will finally stand up and say Daisy, you can talk about me, because the problem is I'm really facing and I know Kathi is giggling here because I see her, you guys don't see her. You dear listeners you cannot see her. But I see her giggling here.

Kathi 17:32

I'm giggling of course, because we were talking about this before we started recording.

Daisy 17:39

In a completely different context. But these athletes and celebrities I'm working with, they don't share with anyone that they're working with me because they keep me as their secret. And of course my confidentiality is my priority. So I'm from time to time I knock at their door virtually and ask eh, let me know when you're ready to really shout out. And they always say no, I can't talk about that because they want to keep me as a secret. And I respect that there will come a day when that changes, too. But when it comes to dreams, I know people who made unbelievable dreams come true. I did it myself. There is a technique that I'm using personally. And we will speak about it maybe end of January, I'm not sure about that. Maybe the year after that January, I'm not so certain about it. But there is a technique that is so powerful that whenever I really want to make something speed up, then that's exactly what I do and every single time, it works.

Kathi 18:51

There you have it guys, Daisy's in the know. Thank you for giving us your short version shortcuts, because I think that what you have given us is the perfect starting point for people to actually start this, bring it into their life.

Daisy 19:08

Yes

Kathi 19:08

Because I know that so many people out there stuck in this negativeness, partly because of what's going on in the world, partly because maybe they don't know how to change, partly because they've just been in this pain zone and a bit stuck and one of our missions is to help you guys move out of that state and start change in your own lives. And I think you've given us the perfect mini formula to take the first step.

Daisy 19:37

I think so, it's doable

Kathi 19:40

It's absolutely doable. And the important thing that you said, I want to reiterate before you gave us that little shortcut recipe. When you start with talking about your cooking, the first thing you said was "choice of recipe" and I wrote that down and I'm going to say out there to the listeners, that is the first step before even figuring out what you do and don't want, choosing that you want to dream again, choosing that you're going to take your dreams back and actually start dreaming and start believing.

Daisy 20:23

Yep. But here is the thing, you cannot start believing when you internally don't feel it. That is the trick. So we need to construct something and put our feelings in coherence with that. And that is when magic can happen. Feeding the dreams or allowing the dreams to be alive. Many years ago, I wrote a song and I was singing it with a vocal coach together and the title is dreams. And there's one line in that song that I so strongly believe in. Believe in your dreams, your dreams believe in you.

Kathi 21:01

Absolutely. Yes. couldn't say it better. And in fact, I would really like to play that song. We never really do this but we're going to do this today in honour actually guys of our 21st episode which is what this one is.

Daisy 21:19

Oh, we're adults, we're adults (laughter)

Kathi 21:22

We're going to play that 21st episode, we are going to play you a Daisy Papp original never before released. And right now is available only on baldandblonde.live website. So let's have a listen to this. I think it perfectly fits today's topic and discussion. And when I listened to it, I just found myself being uplifted in such a beautiful way. So let's have a listen guys.

Daisy 22:21

(Song pays)

Kathi 26:08

That moved me Daisy. It is such a beautiful song like I first I want to say thank you for bringing that into the world because I love music so much and would have liked to have that gift this life. Perhaps next one I will get it. But I find it amazing how people can give life to music and words the way that you guys have done in that song. So thank you for that. And thank you for letting us play it on the episode. I hope everyone else out there loved it as much as I do.

Daisy 26:44

Thank you. Thank you.

Kathi 26:45

So guys, we're going to wrap up today, make sure you jump over to our website and grab your copy of Daisy's song so you can stick it on your phone and listen to it whenever you like. We are so thankful to all of our supporters out there that have been sharing the word, have been helping us grow our audience, a lot of financial support has come in too, we really appreciate that, it helps us do this the best way we can to help you guys out there.

Daisy 27:17

I'm so glad for every single ear listening to us. And I wanted to thank you Kathi for being my partner in this. And I want to thank life that we have the opportunity to share what we have. And I believe that the more people are willing to share what they can and have, the better this world will be for all of us. Thank you deeply from my heart.

Kathi 27:45

On my part. You're very welcome, Daisy. It is my pleasure and joy to be able to do this with you and help so many people out there.

Kathi 27:54

So that's it from us today guys. Make sure you listen to all of our episodes and continue to share with your friends and family. And if you would like some deeper learning Come and join us in our Facebook group Dream Life Creators and meet us. Daisy and Kathi we are Bold and Blonde

Daisy 28:15

Mindset Evolution. And follow us on Instagram at baldandblonde.live. Bye.

Kathi 28:23

See you next time.

Daisy 28:26

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